It’ll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting by Lisa Orban

It'll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting

It’ll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting

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When I was in high school, I attended an Alanon meeting that had a guest speaker from outside the local group. Nothing unusual in and of itself, but he made an impression that has stayed with me to this day. He was a recovering alcoholic. As he shared his story from its beginning, at the end of each little story he would add, “And then it got bad.” He had a gift for making people laugh with him as he recounted all of his bad choices and the ever-increasing disasters in his life. As things escalated, seemingly unable to become any worse, he would add, “and then it got bad”.
Looking back at my life, it could be summed up much the same way.
Often at the end of each of my stories I am sometimes almost compelled to add, “and then it got bad”. I am not an alcoholic nor am I a drug addict. This isn’t a story of redemption through religion, or even a morality tale of bad choices. Many of the circumstances I have found myself in were beyond my control.
I was simply trying to cope the best I could while maintaining a smile.
This book is a bit darker than I initially intended, but I hope that while reading this I can make you smile, on occasion laugh out loud, and maybe even roll your eyes at the ridiculousness of the situations I have found myself in over the years, and near the end, as you finish each section you might, in the back of your head, hear the echo of, and then it got bad. And that’s okay because it did get bad, but in the end, I survived to tell the tale and I do not regret any of it. This is my life, and I wouldn’t change a single line of it.
For better or worse, this is the mostly true, fairly accurate, and almost completely factual account of my life. Some liberties have been taken to protect the somewhat innocent and a few small embellishments were made for the sake of a good story.

About the Author

Lisa M. OrbanLisa Orban was born in Galesburg, IL in 1969. She was moved by her parents (without even asking!) to Quincy as a small child. Bouncing from parent to parent, and house to house until at 16 she was given a broader tour of the state courtesy of foster care. At 18, she voluntarily left for Phoenix with a high school friend where she lived for three years. After returning to Quincy, she went to college and earned an Associates of Arts in Psychology, with a minor in Art. Over the years she has held many jobs, but never quite found the right one. She has written poetry and short stories on a variety of subjects from raising children to finance for online publication. Finally in 2013, after much urging from her friends for years, she sat down one day and started writing about her life.She is the mother of five children, all grown and gone, except her youngest. Which she is sure is trying to drive her mad (as all teenagers do) and has plans to write another book in the future about their childhood, much to their anticipated dismay.

She currently lives in her hometown, in the house she loves, and at the center of the chaos she enjoys so much. Often surrounded by her children, her loves, friends and the strays (both two legged and four) she takes in. She continues to seek out new adventures, misadventures and new mistakes to fill the pages of her next book, laughing as she goes.

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Length: 302 pages.

When the author contacted me seeking a review, I agreed to read this as a free borrow through my Kindle Unlimited account. Within 50 or so pages, though, I was so overtaken by the trials and travesties within this story that I bought it for my Kindle library. It is a hard book to put down and forget about.

Although I am giving this first edition five stars due to its immense potential value to society, as should be apparent in the paragraphs below, there is a visible need for professional editing that I hope the author will understand and employ.

Most of the editing errors concern commas or, what I call, autocorrect stumbles. Before I discuss that, I often commit these types of mistakes myself. Often I commit glaring spelling errors, myself, because I have vision problems while writing on my iPhone, and because I’m afraid to turn off the autocorrect. Further, unlike the errors I can’t miss seeing that are committed by others, no matter how hard I try, I am unable to successfully proof my own typing. If and when I write a Kindle book I hope I have the sense to search for and employ a professional editor.

That brings us to our discussion of this otherwise terrific book It’ll Feel when it Quits Hurting. The author commonly uses the possessive sense, or the apostrophe, in places where it is not proper, or does not use it when it is needed, but far less frequent is this mistake. And, on a very few occasions, such as location 2246, (the last line just before the chapter heading My Kingdom For a Story, the word shallow is used instead of swallow – this is the sort of typo I refer to, correctly or not, as ‘an autocorrect’ error.Read more ›


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I laughed, I cried and most of all, I FELT. Sorrow, joy and amusement in equal measure. I also felt the echo in my own life of some of Lisa’s stories, especially her teenage and young adulthood escapades. I think every reader will feel the same connection to some parts of Lisa’s life. Reading like a series of short stories with a lifetime arc, this is a book that was hard to put down and one I highly recommend.

Lisa’s book suffers from many grammatical errors, as do most self-published books, but unlike the fictional pieces I’ve read, the errors and mistakes didn’t get in the way of the narrative. They’re easily forgiven because of the knowledge that this is, above all, an honest book that doesn’t spare the author or the reader. This is a book like none other I’ve read.

The author provided the book free of charge to me in exchange for my honest and unbiased review.


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IF you don’t give the topic of foster care much of your time, you may want to live the experiences of Lisa Orban, who will certainly give you much more than an executive overview. I was raised in a few orphanages in the 40s and 50s so I had empathy with this unique author’s look back at her past. Her book is quite informative and may very well become the “bible” on the foster care industry. Parents especially will benefit from reading It’ll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting. Be preparied for both shock and amazement as it also deal with the troubling reality of domestic abuse. But like icing on the cake it also provides you with humor to soften the blow. Any domestic violence organisation would surely benefit from the messages in Lisa’s well-written book. If you have never met a domestic violence survivor, you must meet this author. You will be both blessed and enlightened.


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“It’ll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting” is a collection of narrative essays and a brilliant debut from author Lisa Orban. Part coming-of-age, part coming-to-grips, Orban tackles growing up in dysfunctional families, foster care and transitioning into adulthood through personal anecdotes told in a brisk style that makes it hard to put the book down once you pick it up.

Orban is upfront that the reader shouldn’t dive into her world expecting resolution and recovery by the end of the book, and while this might be refreshing for cynics like myself, it’s also fresh way for the optimist reader to discover beauty and inspiration from the unconventional. Orban consistently illustrates this possibility through her reminiscences of both circumstance and consequence. Although her life is an emotional rollercoaster of ups, down and twists, she manages to keep the reigns steady on chaos and retains balance between tragedy and hilarity through her tales. While some may argue that there may be peace in finding normality, Orban demonstrates how deviating from social obedience encourages us to define the world we live in by giving it meaning, and she does just that.

This is an essential read for teens and young adults, particularly those dealing with family dysfunction – and for us older folks, it helps to repair the disconnect many of us experience between adolescence and adulthood because it’s easy to forget that we’ve actually been there. “It’ll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting” is an entertaining narrative that will stay with you long after you read it.

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